Life with little ones can be tough. If you're like us and don't have family help, aka babysitters or some sort of 'pause' button on our precious littles, trying to navigate through getting all the necessities of life done isn't always easy. Not only that, the world can add on another layer of judgmental eyes and unsolicited opinions, as soon as a little one is coming your way (am I right, pregnant mamas?!)
But in the midst of trying to 'make it all work,' many of us hit the point of "Screw it, I'm going to do it how I can." -and that's I guess what we call mama-power. But then again, being a mama like me, worry never leaves your brain and you go through the cycles of wondering if you're doing enough or well enough or this enough, yet again.
During one of my viscous cycles of getting pushed in the physical demands of reality and my idealistic demands of mentality, my husband told me something very simple, yet profound that it settled all the voices in my head.
"It's your style," he said. "You do what you do, except you do it with a baby on your back and you do it well. It's part of how you do it."
Yup, I do it like that.
It might not be "normal" looking to do what I do surrounded by my little-me's, but that was my style and I could own it. At the end of the day, even through all the comments said out loud by seemingly anyone that would cross my path, there was nobody but me, actually judging myself if I was doing a good enough job or not. So, ha! (to myself..) If it's 'wrong,' then I'm sorry, but the last I checked with my life boss, I do have kids and I live life the way mine is being designed and written.
#nonormal #liveyourlife #nolabel
Like ghost writer. You may not get publicized credit or recognition. Actually, a ghost writer only makes the credited "author" or the publicized figure better and awesome sounding. The art of ghost writing is complicated too, because it requires the writer to dish out all their skills, artfully weaving together their ability to express while telling a story true and genuine to the public figure you are writing for.
Sounds like mama-ing, I thought today as I chugged along sweating, pulling my almost 30 lb 2 year old son in his wagon on a mild but seemingly never-ending slope to our home, trying to keep the wagon on track as my dog pulled to the other side. My mind was full of thoughts, worries, and feeling out of breath both physically and mentally. But I looked around at my situation and smiled, inside and out. My efforts may not always get praised and recognized, especially since I may not always succeed, but I'm doing my daily best, artfully weaving together (aka multi tasking) each family members' needs and desires and hoping at least some of it works. Mostly, I just hope my family feels my dedication and love and that fulfills and fuels them.
It was only 8:15am, day 2 of back to school. I had attempted making a routine school morning into more of an experience so the kids could go to school, while my morning with my 2 year old could enjoy a wagon ride while he woke up enough to be ready to be awake and playful enough by the time we reached the park (a cranky non-morning-person toddler is not fun). I planned to leave the house 20 minutes earlier so we could walk, instead of driving to achieve that. It also meant I could spend some before school quality time with my older one and help set him up for the day in a good positive mood. It ended up that Dad needed something right before we left, the older one had to run to school hoping not to be tardy, and us wagon crew turned right back to go home as soon as we got to the park by the school because the baby got thirsty and didn't have a drink nor shoes.
This morning wasn't my best work of ghost mama-ing but each day, each opportunity, we mamas try and I salute the fellow mamas making it all work for their family and unique needs. From the outside, it's all seamlessly put together well and amazingly functional. Here's to ghost-mama days to one day get to know the adult version of our kids with the efforts hopefully paid off. Wishful thinking or positivity? Well, that's the best I got and tomorrow (or the next hour) is a new day (time)!
#ghostmama #strongmama #morning #backtoschool #toddlertime #siblingjuggle #meetalltheneeds #canireally #whoknows #itryanyway #bestfootforward #noexpectations #openfailure #mamahood
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